Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Married to a Moron

So, I was now married to a Moron. Funny how the earth did not move, nor did the married life seem any different than my former one.  Actually that was not true.  I became even less of a "partner" to this man to whom I was betrothed. If that was even possible.

I was no Domestic Goddess, but I could cook, and my housekeeping wasn't spotless - but I was clean. When I cooked dinner, most of the time the Moron would purposely choose to make his own, as I sat there in awe...

When I would make his lunches for work, the Moron would purposely leave them on the counter, and get mad because how dare I choose to decide what he ate for his lunch.  He would bring canned goods to work.

And come any work function, I was always the butt of every joke.  And there were many of them.... And we would sit down at our table, and we would start to eat, and then it would start...

"... nice to finally get a home cooked meal, eh?"

"... better then the canned crap you eat at work?"

Looking back I can see the cruelness in his everyday, and it is pointless to dissect the why. For it doesn't matter, it is done and over.  More important to me, is the why I stayed, and allowed myself to be treated that way, as I am sure all of you are thinking...

Years of abuse takes its toll, and denial is a warm blanket used to comfort oneself when the truth is too cold to bare. You laugh along, and choose to view the world as you want to see it. Especially when you cannot conceive of the cruelties that others spew, it's easier to give the benefit of the doubt, or laugh rather than cry.

21 comments:

viewfromdownhere said...

ugh, what an ass....reading stuff like this just pisses me off for you. Thank God you're out of this mess!

Suzie Q said...

Thanx Alaina, am older and wiser now :)

Life in Rehab said...

Note to self: hug husband of 20 years extra tightly tonight.

Suzie Q said...

Aw, this comment made me smile :) Hug him for me too, will ya?

Chaplain Donna said...

How sad. I could feel your pain in the words you wrote. I'm glad that you are safe and moving on with your life, but it is a challenge to move forward in the mind. Give yourself a gift today, even if it is just a scoop of ice cream. You are wonderful!

veronica said...

Sounds like we went through many of the same things. It's nice to meet you.

Suzie Q said...

That's the thing about Morons - so unoriginal :) Nice to meet you too, Veronica!

Being Me said...

This reminds me, for my soon to be X-moron, even the usual can of soup could turn out wrong and could set him off.
And then I the mere mortal would have to wait out his highness wrath and mood.

theTsaritsa said...

What a jerk! You're much better off, he sounds like a total loser.

Angel said...

Hi, I am a new follower of your blog, I love it!! I can totally relate, I was married to a moron as well. Hope you don't mind, I wrote a post and linked to your blog. I think my readers will love your blog, and I also think everyone should be made aware of the moron epidemic. http://themommydiaries-angel.blogspot.com/2010/09/newest-blog-i-stalk.html

Have a great weekend!

Angel
Chasing Serenity
http://themommydiaries-angel.blogspot.com/

Suzie Q said...

Of course I don't mind. Thank you for the link, and I loved your post!!!

Suzie Q said...

Yes, he truly took Moronville to new levels :)

Suzie Q said...

Thanx Alaina, am older and wiser now :)

Suzie Q said...

Aw, this comment made me smile :) Hug him for me too, will ya?

Suzie Q said...

That's the thing about Morons - so unoriginal :) Nice to meet you too, Veronica!

Suzie Q said...

Yes, they are quite easy to leave at times aren't they?
Hoping things are going well for you....

Kelly said...

Ah yes, good ol denial can definitely hold you firm to places you should have let your feet do the walking from ages ago...

Suzie Q said...

Your encouraging words always come at the right times, thank you :)

Jennifer Laquerre said...

 Wow.  I am really amazed at how similar your posts are to the life I am in now.  I made a special breakfast for Easter for him.  He came down about 2PM, told me something smelled good, but there's no way it could be what I was cooking, then made himself a steak on the grill.  He asked me if he could have part of the breakfast I made, then threw it away without touching it.  

Suzie Q said...

OOooo, what a MORON!!!!! I am sorry.  Please know that we are all here for supprot whenever you should need us. I am hoping this is opening your eyes as to none of this is your fault.  These are HIS issues. 
Take care, Suzie Q.

Suzie Q said...

Funny how strong denial can be.  Yet perhaps it is needed to prepare us for what we know we have to do...

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