Life with a Moron is very unpredictable. And that’s how they like it. It’s easier to keep those around you in control, when they are walking around on eggshells and easy to knock over. When you do not know what to expect, but at the back of your mind are expecting the worst, the focus is off if this type of behaviour should even be tolerated, and instead focused on what to do when…
This keeps the Moron’s victims always off kilter, while the whole time alluding to the ever popular, “it’s you, not me” feeling. Morons have a way of making you feel a little crazy. Of making you do a double take on your own thoughts, feelings and insights. Morons often utilize the help of your family and friends to bring these feelings home. They create situations with their incredible manipulative skills to appear to those closest to you, that you are in fact losing a bit of your mind, and reduce your credibility. This makes them second guess you, and most importantly, you second guess yourself. And there they are swooping in like a knight in shining armour to “save” you from yourself, and make you more dependant on them.
Morons prey on your weaknesses and chip away at your strengths in order to feel better about themselves, and ultimately have the feeling of power over you. In the beginning this can be confused with a “Knight in Shining Armour” persona. But it is in fact a very devious and underhanded way of gaining power and control over you.
Check out The Moron Code, for further Moron signs and insights. In my opinion, the most important one being: Actions speak louder than words.
Living a Moron-free existence now, I am able to reflect and assimilate knowledge. I am able to focus and learn how I allowed myself to be manipulated and contorted by my Moron. I am such a believer in knowledge and education being key. It is only with knowledge can we learn from our mistakes and perhaps even impart some of our wisdom to others to help navigate this wonderful life – in a hopefully Moron-free existence.
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It's amazing, and a little sad, that I can relate to this kind of experience with a moron of my own.
When it came time to have the "hard" conversation about why we should be putting our money towards our rent/utilities instead of alcohol/herbal recreation, my ex would shut down completely. No lie. He would become silent, unmoving, and would simply stare at the wall until I grew tired of trying to engage him and eventually gave up. This boggled my mind, as I would get NO reaction from him, no matter how much I would beg him to so much as blink, nod, tell me to go F myself, SOMETHING to indicate that words were actually coming out of my mouth. At one point I did question my sanity - was I actually speaking, or was it all in my head?
Needless to say, I support you 100% in the drive to encourage more people to lead an existence which is moron-free.
I'm glad you were able to get out of that situation.
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It's funny because the more I read of your blog the more I think "oh yeah, that's totally right!" In my emotionally abusive relationship, I was made to feel like it was always always me and never him, that I was crazy and demanding and that I didn't deserve whatever it was I wanted from him. I've just never fully seen those words or that explanation out in front of me before.
I think educating people about all of this is a great idea. Keep writing!
I really wish this was around when I lived with my moron. But that was a lifetime ago. This is a wonderful idea for a blog, looking forward to reading more.
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wow all these awards, lol!!! I too can relate to life with a Moron, and you have a way of putting it so well on paper. Don't stop, I think you can really use your voice and experiences to help some girls out there :)
Just found your blog via BF. I used to live with an emotional abusive man for 4 years. Then I left him. Yet that stopped his denial and he is now in therapy for 2 years and going strong.
WE are going to get married in November. He his dedicated to himself - this time selfcare and not selfishness. he learned why he was doing what he was doing and learns a complete new life. I will attend a self helpgroup for partners as soon as I arrive. Love is not enough. It takes more. he was ready to put it in to not lose me. For that he finds himelf now.
I love your blog. I think it could be very helpful to many people in this situation. My niece is currently married to a moron and takes up for him all the time—trying desperately to get people to believe she is happy. Sad, too, she took her two little daughters into this relationship with her.
That. Was. So. True! ~ I know someone like that. His wife devorced him, and everyone still thinks the x-wife is crazy. That man seriously went out of his way to make the family think she is crazy... and some of them actually bought into it - all the way. So sad. Good job for helping others to avoid the same trap!!!
Unfortunately I think this is far more common than people think it is. Which is very sad :( I am glad I can do a little part to perhaps educate, help those see the traps, or at the very least let people know they aren't the only ones out there.
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