Monday, July 5, 2010

More Morons in This World Than Needed



Check out our poll below, a little disturbing, but probably closer to being representative of our population then we would like to think.


HAVE YOU EVER DATED A MORON?



Violence against women is a serious issue in this world. This does not even take into account emotional abuse, which often goes undetected to those around the victim, as there are no bruises or physical evidence, only emotional scarring - that often takes longer to heal. Here are a few facts that may shock you (from the Canadian Women's Foundation):
  • Half of Canadian women (51%) have experienced at least one incident of physical or sexual violence since the age of 16.
  • Every minute of every day, a Canadian woman or child is being sexually assaulted.
  • One to two women are murdered by a current or former partner each week in Canada.
  • Spousal violence makes up the single largest category of convictions involving violent offences in non-specialized adult courts in Canada over the five-year period 1997/98 to 2001/02. Over 90% of offenders were male.
  • Thirty-six percent of female victims of spousal violence and less than 10% of victims of sexual assault reported these crimes to the police in 2004.
  • Physical and sexual abuse costs Canada over $4 billion each year (factoring into account social services, criminal justice, lost employment days and health care interventions).
  • Violence against women occurs across all ethnic, racial, religious, age, social and economic groups. Some women are more vulnerable however, and are more likely to experience violence, including women with disabilities, geographically-isolated women, young women and Aboriginal women.
  • Women are five times more likely to fear for their lives as a result of spousal violence: the violence or threat of violence was so severe that 38% of women feared for their lives compared with 7% of men.
  • Violence against women affects children. Every year in Canada, up to 360,000 children are exposed to domestic violence.
  • For children who are exposed to violence, consequences can include emotional trauma, depression, injury and permanent disability, as well as other physical, psychological and behavioural problems that can extend into adolescence and adulthood.
  • Some victims never tell anyone about the abuse: they may feel ashamed or embarrassed, or fear being stigmatized by others.
  • She may be reluctant to report the abuse to the police, either because she fears retaliation, does not believe that involving the criminal justice system can help, or fears losing her children.
  • Shelters for abused women do more than provide emergency housing and food for women and their children: they offer counseling and support to help women rebuild their lives, programming for children who have witnessed violence to help them heal, legal advice, and assistance finding affordable housing. Many shelters also raise awareness in their communities about domestic violence.
  • The cost of operating shelters for abused women in Canada totals more than $135 million each year. Shelters play a critical role in stopping violence against women, but are only part of the solution. Support for women involves a wide range of services and programs that both prevent abuse (e.g. teaching youths about healthy relationships) and help abused women rebuild their lives after violence.
Scary stuff. Good news is that we can affect change. We can educate our daughters, mothers, sisters, grandmothers, and granddaughters. Education truly is key. I believe in the power of change. I believe in the power of people I believe in myself. I am proof that through understanding, counselling, perseverance, and self-love, healing can occur, and the cycle of abuse can be stopped.

Help stop this vicious cycle. You too can do your part. Abuse is more prevalent than you think. It takes on all sorts of moronic forms. Help rid this world of abusive moronic behaviour, and make it a safer place for us all to live.

Check out the moron cures to the side for some information, or contact your local women's shelter/centre.

29 comments:

sherri said...

Domestic violence is an absolutely horrible thing..that a person can hurt someone this way and then state that they "love them"...horseshit! I'm sorry for cursing...but it's how I feel.

Have you read about the woman in Iran who has been sentenced to death by stoning for having an affair? She has already been in prison for 5 years and now has been sentenced to die...

http://www.foxnews.com/world/2010/06/30/iranian-woman-faces-stoned-death-adultery/

MoosMamma said...

It is truly disturbing. Myself... I had my first run in with a full fledged MORON at the age of 15... and continued to subject myself to his crap for 3 years.... I can totally identify with those stats.... sadly enough... I was one of the silent ones..... and when I left (snuck away really) while he was at work one day.... I never returned.... and never looked back.... I'm still not sure what it was in me that allowed myself to be subjected to the HELL that was my life... I still thank my lucky stars that I did not procreate with that creature.... My personal goal... make that my mission.... is to teach my daughter how to spot one a MILE away... how to be strong... to look after... and take care of HERSELF! That she does not NEED a man.... but that its okay to WANT one.. because those are very different concepts! Thanks for sharing.... and inspiring : )

David said...

A dear friend of mine married a moron and had 2 little boys with him. I as a long time friend could see her change over the years but the denial was too strong for her to listen to my concerns. I wish I could have done more, I wish I knew how to do more....to help break through the denial. You mention in your post all the people who need to be educated and they are all female. This man wishes he knew more too....and Jess wishes I did too. :) She reads your blog now too....thanks for it.

viewfromdownhere said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story and this information. My sister was married to a "moron" for about two years but got out, and I personally was in an emotionally abusive relationship with another "moron" for almost five years and got out. Young girls need to be educated about abuse from an early age and learn what is NOT acceptable from a man and how to be strong and get out when the warning signs start to show.

Suzie Q said...

No, Sherri, I will check that out...
MoosMamma, I too met many throughout my lifetime, and obviously didn't learn the lessons I needed to learn. I am thankful for my beautiful daughter, although I DID procreate with a moron. I am hoping my story will help educate others. Thank you for reading.
David, you are so right, we need to educated the men too. Not only so they can help, support and nurture those with morons in their lives, but so we don't rear or tolerate more Morons!!! I m glad your friend has seen the light. It took me a decade....but I am here now, on the other side of it all. It is true, what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger.
Viewfromdownhere, I am so happy your sister got out! Too many of us get sucked in...and you as well. Emotional & physical abuse are equally manipulative and heartwrenching. Don't underestimate the destruction of emotional abuse, it is deadly too, just a more invisible kind of pain. You both should be proud of yourselves, and that you have made yourselves Moron-proof.

Holly Renee said...

Domestic violence is an awful thing, especially when children are present. I think people don't realize how prevalent it is, and how harmful, even fatal it can be. Education is so important and I think this blog post is helpful in that arena. Thanks for putting this out there!

Connie said...

One of my best and sweetest girlfriends was shot to death a few years ago by her police officer husband, leaving behind five beautiful children. There are high numbers of domestic violence here in Hawaii, also. With the highest numbers amongst the native Hawaiian, Filipino and Military population. People here have a tendency to be very gracious and forgiving, however, the climate is changing drastically and I believe it is due to people like you who are not afraid and are boldly committed to educating the population about this horrendous atrocity. Thank you so much..I am going to def use your site as a tool.

Adrienne said...

These statistics are very scary! I stopped by from the blog frog. Following you now, and look forward to reading more.

Suzie Q said...

Holly Renee, it does happen way more than we think or even hear about. And emotional abuse is devastating on children as well, a silent killer as it kills ones spirit.
Connie, that is horrible, I am so sorry. Those children! That is so sad. I am glad to offer help if I can.
Adrienne, they are scary! And too many of us stay silent. I did for almost a decade...

Whitney said...

Breaking the cycle of abuse is hard sometimes, and these statistics make it seem harder. It should be done though, as no one deserves to live a life afraid, put-down, hurt, and powerless.

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

If those are the stats for Canada, I'd hate to see the ones for the US. In high school, my ex-boyfriend started hitting his then current girlfriend & when it got out, everyone asks if he hit me, but he never acted voilent toward me in any way. Now he's married. Do you think someone like that could only have 1 victim?

Suzie Q said...

Whitney, you are right, no one deserves it. Hopefully women & men are being educated, as the more we talk about it and bring it into the open, the less it can be swept under a rug.
Semi-Slacker Mom, no, sadly. Morons look to find their victims, ones that will react to them, and when the victims get numb to the abuse, or tolerant of it, they step up the abuse.

Corine said...

It is so cool of you to do this blog! You are absolutely right... education on the subject is needed. Abuse is just plain wrong and should not be tolerated.

PS thanks for your comment on my blog today. I look forward to getting to know you and to our journal circle project.

Corine :D

Kimberly said...

Sad to see the numbers... I'm curious what the numbers would be if every woman that was abused actually took the poll. Scary to think that half of the woman have experienced it at some point.

All the best,
Kim

Jenn Erickson said...

Love your polls and writing style. I like the way you combine wit, good humor, and compelling facts to raise awareness. Thank you! Visiting by way of our Blog Frog forum. Jenn

Kelly said...

Those numbers are shocking eventhough it is forum I am familiar with! Thanx for posting and promoting this!

Suzanne said...

Thank you for taking the time to share this information. I know a lot of women who believe "it won't/can't happen to me." I should know I was one of them. Luckily we have been divorced since 2003, and I have moved onto bigger and better things.

Red Web Turtle said...

Thanks for sharing this information. You've got an informational blog that will help women suffering from domestic violence.

NayLahKnee LahKnee said...

I too was ONCE a victim of domestic violence. I left that sad story in a bottle real quick, fast & in a hurry. Never again! Thank you for sharing this info. You know all things work together for good - out of my sorry story in a bottle - I got my Angel on earth!

Suzie Q said...

I am so happy your sister got out! Too many of us get sucked in...and you as well. Emotional & physical abuse are equally manipulative and heartwrenching. Don't underestimate the destruction of emotional abuse, it is deadly too, just a more invisible kind of pain. You both should be proud of yourselves, and that you have made yourselves Moron-proof.

Suzie Q said...

David, you are so right, we need to educated the men too. Not only so they can help, support and nurture those with morons in their lives, but so we don't rear or tolerate more Morons!!! I m glad your friend has seen the light. It took me a decade....but I am here now, on the other side of it all. It is true, what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger.

Suzie Q said...

MoosMamma, I too met many throughout my lifetime, and obviously didn't learn the lessons I needed to learn. I am thankful for my beautiful daughter, although I DID procreate with a moron. I am hoping my story will help educate others. Thank you for reading.

Suzie Q said...

Adrienne, they are scary! And too many of us stay silent. I did for almost a decade...

Suzie Q said...

Connie, that is horrible, I am so sorry. Those children! That is so sad. I am glad to offer help if I can

Suzie Q said...

Holly Renee, it does happen way more than we think or even hear about. And emotional abuse is devastating on children as well, a silent killer as it kills ones spirit.

Suzie Q said...

Aw, so happy to hear that :)

Suzie Q said...

Semi-Slacker Mom, no, sadly. Morons look to find their victims, ones that will react to them, and when the victims get numb to the abuse, or tolerant of it, they step up the abuse.

Suzie Q said...

Whitney, you are right, no one deserves it. Hopefully women & men are being educated, as the more we talk about it and bring it into the open, the less it can be swept under a rug.

Suzie Q said...

It is pretty scary stuff, and often goes overlooked...

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