Monday, July 19, 2010

Roller Coaster Ride

Living with my Moron was like a roller coaster ride, although the price for the ride was high, at times it almost cost me my life.

In real life I have always preferred the old, rickety, wooden roller coaster rides. The ones that really rock you about, and twist and turn and shake you in your seat. In my private life I thought I wanted less drama than that. I was under the impression that I wanted my fairytale romance. Problem is, the romance that is shown to us from fairy tales, and Hollywood always seem to involve drama.

The BIG kiss, the fight that almost broke them apart, the huge misunderstanding as a result of the meddling best friend, the ultimate epic romance. These are the images and stories we are blasted with from the time of our conception, and they get linked into our psyche, and can be hard to interpret. Especially when you have a Moron taking you on a roller coaster ride with all the highs and lows, and drama you could imagine.

After all, aren't you supposed to stand by your man? Isn't your prince supposed to rescue you from the fiery dragons, and fight for you against all odds? Doesn't passion mean the explosion and fireworks and doesn't all of that equal love?

It has taken me 30 some odd years to figure out the true meaning of love, and that love exists also in the quiet times..."Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" (Corinthians 13:4-8).

Perhaps the next time I will stick to the roller coaster rides at the amusement parks, and seek true partnership and love found in my much enlightened view of true love. How about you?

10 comments:

viewfromdownhere said...

I love that Bible verse! We're actually using it in our wedding, and I think it speaks so true. True love is finding your partner and your counter-part in another. The roller coaster relationship is highly highly overrated, that's for sure!

Ms. Understood said...

We used this text in our wedding this past October. My friend who read it put so emotion into it. We loved it. I've been in a couple of rollercoaster relationships and to be honest, just like the rollercoaster at the amusement park, it was thrilling and I'd get that feeling in my tummy in anticipation of the crazy dips ahead. But there is a reason those rides are only 60 seconds long. They aren't meant to go one for a long time because they could really hurt you if they did. I love when you post.

Grandmother Crone said...

Thank you Suzie Q. I have never known that verse. It is so very moving and so true and so hard to live in.
It took me fifty years+ to begin to understand. I say begin because I am always learning and nothing is perfect, not even me. :-) just interjecting a bit of humor.

Mrs4444 said...

I remember the merry-go-round days. When you grow up in a house full of drama, you find yourself comfortable with it (an uncomfortable with healthy, normal relationships). I used to be so addicted to drama. Thank God for therapy...

Jorja said...

it takes great courage to learn from an abusive marriage!

intentionalfamily said...

I recite that verse each morning only I substitute "I" for the word "love" to remind myself of the person I want to be!

Christa said...

Filing for my second divorce and really am coming to the understanding for myself that I am done with the roller coaster. I want peace and I deserve the kind of love that is spoken of in Corinthians 13.

Rebecca said...

I feel like the roller coaster is also pulling into the station...When I was younger I think I was misled by the tv/movie romance, but no one likes a horror story! But my questions is, can there be a marriage without the roller coaster ride? Maybe it is just the dips we need to avoid?

Mommie Kate said...

Wow! You have such an encouraging and informative blog. I was involved with (many many years ago) a moron and am so glad I got out and on to better things. There is life- wonderful life- after divorce. Your posts have really touched me and I would like to pass on the One Lovely Blog Award to you. You may pick it up at http://www.faith4moms.blogspot.com

denyse dar said...

Hi Suzy..I think the next person you settle with won't be a moron. you recognize now what an unhealthy partner looks like and the routine they have. lol!

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