Boy wouldn't that be something to see? But then think of the Moronic splatter left for us to clean up...just like a Moron - leaving us with a mess to clean up afterwards.
At the same time, Morons don't just erupt from nowhere. They usually come with a whole line of Moronic extended family. At least mine did.
The Moron was more or less from the small spit and miss town we lived in, having grown up there. Where his sister and his parents lived. She was a couple of years older that the Moron, and was a single mom to a wonderful little boy. He was such a nice kid.
The sister had always told me such horrific stories of the father of her child - one including him shooting a shotgun after her while she was running down the street. I was always in awe of her view towards her Moron, and how she appeared to have such a pleasant view of him and insisted he truly was such a "nice guy".
I know now, she was in complete denial. And that was how she handled her abuse. I used to think she was such a better person than I, forgiving him and such, for the horrendous things he put her through, then trusting him with their child. I know now, it was denial and fear, that made her think and do these things. And even after all that has transpired between us, I really just feel sorry for her. And saddened that she still, after all these years, is unable to see the truth before her eyes. (More about her later)
There was also a younger sister, who pretty much had disassociated from the family, moved to the BIG city, and started her own life there. It saddens me to think that even she stooped to their level during the divorce - but, I guess blood is thicker than water.
But the piece de resistance is the mother, The Queen Biotch. It truly amazes me the gall and lack of class that some people have. The apple definitely didn't fall far from the tree - in this case.
I used to actually feel sorry for her, and gave her such latitude, in the beginning. After hearing the horror stories of how her first husband (the Moron's father) had treated her. And all that he did to her and their children.
Now I just am saddened and angry. Sad that she allowed such horrible things happen to her children, and that she had endured such fear. Angry because she did not utilize the opportunity to develop understanding, healing and growth to overcome her ordeal. Instead she just perpetuated it.
Angry that not only did she allow her children to be hurt in so many ways (including her daughters to be raped and molested by her brother) but also allow them to hurt innocents, and eventually put my daughter at risk.
Lastly there is the Moron's step father. Ironically I liked him the least in the beginning, and the most in the end. He is a simple, selfish, deluded, money hungry tool. But in the end, what he is to your face, he is to your back. He makes no excuses for who he is - other than show you up front who he is. In the end I gotta respect him for that. Amid a family of people who hide and manipulate under the covers of being the "nice guy", he ironically has earned my respect for being who he is.
What is your extended family like?
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My moron's family was equally moronic! The older sister was in therapy for post traumatic stress, both Moron and his father thought this was ridiculous, after all, it was the moron that dad heaped all of his contempt upon, not sis. Mom was a neurotic decorator, not only did she maintain a pristine castle in the sky, she also maintained on on the prime material plane, complete with winter white carpets for all of us to tread lightly upon. The moron himself was one hell of a piece of work, he felt because he held one job in his lifetime which carried some level of responsibility, he could never accept another job again unless it was "equally prestigious". Needless to say, getting a job of any sort was beneath him in one way or another. What I especially "loved" was the way his mom would explain away all of his pitiful habits were her fault, for spoiling him so much, she "really thought he would take to responsibility once he was living on his own." Who suddenly dives into accountability when they've been blissfully ignorant of it their entire life?
Pure craziness!!!!! Glad to know I am not the only one living with a bunch of Morons :) In fact, glad I don't have to deal with these people - however my poor lil Pixie still has the misfortune of having to. I only hope they impart good things to her.... well, a girl can dream....
I am sure glad I have few to no dealings with my inlaws...
My ex and his family are crazy. they are the family with the white picket fence that everyone is envious of and when you are introduced you instantly think "what a wonderful nice family I am getting into"... then you actually get Sucked into the family and I was literally shocked at the pure sickness and disfunction in this "perfect" family. One sister moved to another state and seems to be pretty distant- she is 8 years older than my ex. The next sister down has serious issues with coping skills and anxiety and spent many days hiding from her kids in her room-nice. The next sister is NUTS called me screaming at me when I finally left my moron, is on and off medication and up down and all around in her moods. the exes dad and mom are BOTH social worker... frightening! They have covered sex abuse, physical abuse in their home (apparently my moron abused his sister) and his mom is the most manipulative sick up and down person ever. She uses guilt to control and manipulate. They will lie to your face and turn on you like a pack of wolves when you leave. I wish they would all spontaniously combust!!
My ex is a moron, and as in-laws go I think they definitely share the same gene pool(constant in-fighting like a nest of snakes) and am very glad my EX stayed away from them while we were married which means I now don't have to worry or deal with the rest of the moronic in-laws and neither do my kids.
They can kill each other for all I care and take my *%$^*@ EX along with them to the deck below hell.
My ex moron had a truly deluded and dysfunctional family too. How ANY of his 6 kids have made it thus far without being more warped is astounding to me. He did do one thing right, he picked good women to knock up. All of us "baby mamas" have kept a pretty good head on our shoulders since we got rid of him.
His brother and he swapped one woman back and forth over the course of 5 years. His brother dated her first, knocked her up, left her, my ex took up with her while she was pregnant, dumped her at the end of pregnancy, the brother took her back, dumped her when kid was about 1, and my ex took her back for another year. And it cycled again 3 more times before she finally met a decent man and moved on.
His Dad was a drunk and abuser and pretty much stayed out of their lives until a year ago, right before he died. His mom was in denial that her partying lifestyle and never being around was a lot of the reason the kids did what they wanted. She "did her best". Yep..sure did. Did her best to stay drunk and a bar fly throughout her kids formative years and enabled them to do whatever whenever so she could.
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I am glad that you women have been able to keep it together throughout all the craziness :)
Now tell us how you really feel ;)
Appearances sure can be deceiving, can't they?
Me too!!
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