tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post507694767101967574..comments2023-10-21T02:22:20.517-07:00Comments on I Married a Moron – And Survived!: Fear - Can we Live with it?Suzie Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16612983731357919856noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-17094056228237969052011-10-31T09:04:36.566-07:002011-10-31T09:04:36.566-07:00Being subject to unfamiliar occurences are difficu...Being subject to unfamiliar occurences are difficult - even when they are positive ones. Keep working on it, life is a process. Recognizing it is a good step. Be kind to yourself, and life will expose your triggers, and you can work on them, in the process of your healing. I urge you to seek out others who have these same feelings, it is a powerful tool to talk to someone who knows what you are going thru. One of the biggest helps to my journey of healing was doing a group therapy session with other victims of abuse. I wish you well, and know that you are not the only one - despite how you may feel some times.Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-85486310426643204612011-10-20T03:48:06.403-07:002011-10-20T03:48:06.403-07:00Wow, there r others who feel the same and were in ...Wow, there r others who feel the same and were in the same situations as me. I am still in it though. I got a job last winter working in a warehouse with mostly men. One guy helped me with a problem i had with a shipment and was really kind about it and I started to cry. It was so sad to actually come across a guy who was kind to me. I eventually quit the job because It was so difficult being with normalish men, never mind looking them in the eye. I feel I have nothing in common with other women also because of this.Annonamousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-10564781536522391192011-06-21T08:16:28.746-07:002011-06-21T08:16:28.746-07:00Welcome Purple Lady :) Sometimes fear can be all e...Welcome Purple Lady :) Sometimes fear can be all encompassing, but it is a process, and I am at least moving in the right direction!!!Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-21135815398594085902011-06-20T21:24:25.407-07:002011-06-20T21:24:25.407-07:00I feel so blessed to have found your blog. I have ...I feel so blessed to have found your blog. I have had a lot of fear in my life helping me make my choices and I too will fight against that fear for the rest of my days. Love your writing voice...you speak to me.The Purple Ladyhttp://iheartpurplestuff.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-23902650908081417192011-06-20T11:38:55.419-07:002011-06-20T11:38:55.419-07:00Wow. so glad to hear your story of survival and no...Wow. so glad to hear your story of survival and now "thrival". Dropping by from Blog Frog. Following. Hope you will too. www.rebeccalynndunning.blogspot.comDunning Rebeccanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-21317473969825284212011-06-20T08:18:52.541-07:002011-06-20T08:18:52.541-07:00I have found that thru the process of moving on, h...I have found that thru the process of moving on, healing and growing from this abusive experience, I have re-found me :) It's actually been a neat process. I am finding out stuff about myself I never knew - as I took on so much of what others said I was.Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-68301695988227477042011-06-16T13:04:28.202-07:002011-06-16T13:04:28.202-07:00I am still trying to get over some of the fear fro...I am still trying to get over some of the fear from my marriage to my moron. I have fear of getting into the same type of situation, fear of being alone and those are things I am becoming less fearfull of with time. One thing that is still a huge work in progress is anxiety. Before I married the moron I was a "social butterfly", loved meeting new people, loved being silly and loud and fun. The moron stifled that pretty quick with "youre stupid", "your fat"," your ugly "and no one wants to be with you. I am still learning to get over those words that have been etched in my brain and trying to get back to being the spunky and outgoing person I once was. Lindsaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-14265908232913942372011-06-16T06:05:19.735-07:002011-06-16T06:05:19.735-07:00Thanks for making me feel not alone, too :)
Yep, t...Thanks for making me feel not alone, too :)<br />Yep, that eye contact thing is sometimes hard for me, especially those in authority - not to mention I am quite shy to boot. But like everything else, it is a process, and I am making progress, or like to think I am, LOL!!!Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-46871419897316324562011-06-16T06:02:53.157-07:002011-06-16T06:02:53.157-07:00Ahhh the good life, I like the sound of that!!!Ahhh the good life, I like the sound of that!!!Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-20594479686752815632011-06-16T06:02:22.554-07:002011-06-16T06:02:22.554-07:00Thank you, Mathew. That actually makes me feel bet...Thank you, Mathew. That actually makes me feel better. It just becomes such an instinctual and familiarized way to feel, like any other behaviour, its hard not to. But onwards and upwards....Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-20795934438481592402011-06-16T06:00:23.049-07:002011-06-16T06:00:23.049-07:00I like that analogy!!!I like that analogy!!!Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-56821286458424316342011-06-15T05:35:36.894-07:002011-06-15T05:35:36.894-07:00Fear dominates human feelings and emotion more tha...Fear dominates human feelings and emotion more than any other... The fact that you're aware of this is huge with regards to overcoming it.Mathew Hornenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-6907190323526984852011-06-15T01:31:08.173-07:002011-06-15T01:31:08.173-07:00http://mothersalways.blogspot.comhttp://mothersalways.blogspot.comBMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-12266319743717370172011-06-14T23:46:43.343-07:002011-06-14T23:46:43.343-07:00It's a difficult one, especially when you once...It's a difficult one, especially when you once were under the hand of a moron, and the longer you were the there, the more you are brainwashed into a fear of making certain disicions in your life. I don't like fear, and I walso don't like conflict. Sometimes you just need to rip of the band-aid though and when it's done, it's done. Nadyahttp://www.journey-keeper.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-15553788088743681392011-06-14T20:44:36.918-07:002011-06-14T20:44:36.918-07:00My first husband was a moron and an abuser too, un...My first husband was a moron and an abuser too, unfortunately. I was divorced 6 years and have been married to a wonderful man for 29 years. Those Moron years never leave you but they sure do teach you a lot. <br /><br />Put Fear in the trash can. You are free now to live the good life.Kathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-9592587186362331532011-06-14T19:46:42.071-07:002011-06-14T19:46:42.071-07:00It's good to know I'm not the only one wit...It's good to know I'm not the only one with these feelings. I've had to work really hard at making eye contact with people. It feels good to take back your life, even if it is scary! Thanks for sharing.<br /><br />BillieBillie Jean Buxtonhttp://www.facebook.com/Mormonmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-43462914877945831872011-06-14T19:13:19.634-07:002011-06-14T19:13:19.634-07:00You are right about taking back control. What is ...You are right about taking back control. What is your website address, BM?Suzie Qhttp://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2041944850107676483.post-91378097605112029842011-06-14T19:05:18.282-07:002011-06-14T19:05:18.282-07:00I so agree with you that we need to address FEAR, ...I so agree with you that we need to address FEAR, that it can be debilitating. Many of my posts are about addressing this, being aware of it.... but I have come to a stage where it is reduced significantly and mostly because I remind myself not to give him or allow him that power over me. Take back control.<br /><br />BMB Mnoreply@blogger.com